Holy Matrimony


Wedding ceremonies are held at a date and time of your choosing.

Please call the parish office at 815-385-4030 to check availability and to schedule your wedding.


Wedding Frequently Asked Questions



Do you only marry people of the Lutheran faith? No, we welcome all Christians to join in Holy Matrimony.

Do we have to attend a class? Classes are not required however we do require a personal pre-marital meeting with Pastor. You can schedule this meeting when you schedule your wedding.

Will Pastor conduct a wedding off-site? Yes, if he is available, he will conduct a wedding off-site.

Can Pastor marry us in Wisconsin? Yes, but please call the parish office prior to making any definite plans as some restrictions may apply.

Do you have an organist or soloist that can play for our wedding? Yes, we kindly ask that arrangements be made four weeks in advance. If you choose music other than what is listed below we ask that you provide sheet music at least six weeks prior to your wedding.

Can we have flowers delivered to the church? Yes, you are welcome to decorate our Sanctuary with flowers of your choice. Please note, we have two fresh flower arrangements delivered each Friday, they are located behind the altar.

Can I have a unity candle or a sand ceremony? Absolutely! Either one is a beautiful part of the ceremony. Should you wish to incorporate one of these ceremonies into your wedding, please provide the large unity candle with two tapers or the components needed for your chosen sand ceremony.  

Can I bring in an aisle runner? Yes, please note that the center aisle of our Sanctuary requires a 50' runner. We do not have an aisle runner here at the church, but your florist could provide one for you. 

What about my marriage license? You will need to apply to the county in which you are getting married. Please bring your marriage license to the church prior to your wedding day.

Can I have a wedding ceremony rehearsal? Yes, rehearsals typically take place the evening before your wedding. You can schedule your wedding rehearsal at the same time you schedule your wedding. The rehearsal is a great time to bring your unity candle or sand elements.

How long does the rehearsal take? That somewhat depends on you and how many times you would like to run through, the size of your bridal party and what questions you may have. A straight run through will take approximately 20 to 30 minutes. 

Will Pastor conduct our rehearsal? Sometimes, depending upon his schedule. Most likely he will be conducting another wedding or service in which case a Parish worker will lead you through the ceremony.

Am I required to have a wedding rehearsal? No, rehearsals are not required.

Are there any fees to get married at the church? Member Fee $175.00 Non-Member Fee $325.00. Pastor does not charge to perform any Sacraments, Rites or Special Services, however it is customary to offer a donation of your choosing.  

On the day of my wedding when should I arrive?  Everyone in the wedding party should arrive at least 30 minutes prior to the ceremony. Dressing rooms for both men and women are available with full length mirrors and air conditioning. You will be shown the location of each of these rooms on the day of your rehearsal. You are welcome to arrive and dress here should you choose to do so. 

Where should my limo park? The limo(s) may park directly in front of the church.

What about photographs? Flash photography and lighted videography may be taken before the ceremony, the bridal party processional, the bridal party recessional and after the ceremony. We kindly ask that no flash or additional lighting be used during the ceremony. You are welcome to go anywhere on the church grounds or return to the Sanctuary after the ceremony for posed pictures. Pastor will be more than happy to take photos with you as well. 

When do we sign our marriage license? Unless otherwise requested, the bride, groom, best man, maid of honor and Pastor will join in his private study to sign your license.

Can we throw rice on the way out of the church? Rice is not very friendly to small critters and birds. Therefore, we ask that you refrain from throwing rice. Bird seed or bubbles are a great alternative!

Can we bring alcohol into the church? Being that we are in the Lord's House, we must treat it with respect and dignity. Therefore, smoking and alcoholic beverages are not allowed. 

Lastly, remember to relax, be happy and enjoy your very special wedding day.  

Pastor will guide you through the entire ceremony.  

Wedding Music


  • Wedding March from "Lohendrin" - R. Wagner
  • Trumpet Voluntary - J. Clark
  • Jesu Joy of Men's Desiring - J.S. Bach
  • Canon in D - J. Pachelbel
  • A Thousand Years - Christina Perri


  • Wedding March - F. Mendelssohn
  • Trumpet Tune - J. Clark
  • Wedding March - A. Schreiner
  • Jesu Joy of Men's Desiring - J.S. Bach
  • Allegro Maestoso - G.F. Handel


  • The Lord's Prayer - Malotte
  • Wedding Prayer - Dunlap
  • And On This Day - English (Typically used during Unity Candle or Sand Ceremony)
  • You Are My Love - Sanford
  • A Wedding Benediction - Lovelace
  • Holding Hands - Green, Cunningham, Huesmann
  • The Gift of Love - Hopson
  • Forever I Do (The Wedding Song) - Wansel/Biggs
  • Cherish The Treasure - Mohr
  • I Am Loved - Gaither
  • Bridal Prayer - Copela
  • Whither Thou Goest - Singer


  • Wedding Song (There is Love)
  • Longer - Fogelberg
  • You and I  - Rabbitt
  • One Hand One Heart - Bernstein
  • The Rose - McBroom
  • Through The Eyes Of Love - Hamlisch
  • All I Ask Of You - Webber
  • What A Difference You've Made In My Life - Jordan
  • Sunrise Sunset - Bock
  • A Love Until The End - Holdridge

Wedding Readings

MARK 10:6-9
But from the beginning of creation, "God made them male and female.' For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother to be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one seperate."

By Contrast, the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no lay against such things.

If I speak in tongues of mortals and of angels, but do not have love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give away all possessions, and if I hand over by body so that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing. Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 

Wedding Ceremony Order of Service

Scripture Readings
Exchange of Promises
Exchange of Vows
Exchange of Rings
Unity Candle or Sand Ceremony
Marriage Blessing
Closing Prayer
The Lord's Prayer

Musical pieces may also be added at the following locations:
After the bride is given away
After the sermon
During the unity candle or sand ceremony



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